Self love is much easier when you are ‘what’s desirable’..
But what about when you’re unhappy with your body, relationship, job or lifestyle?
How do you practice self love through these seasons?
What can you do to cultivate a loving inner voice after turmoil?
Self love is something that needs to be maintained, just like any other habit, its not something you can do a few times, if you want to see long lasting change
Unfortunately, self love is not a light switch you can just flick on, its something that you need to maintain and is a daily effort, for life.
It’s so easy for us to walk away from self love, ESPECIALLY when we haven’t worked on our trauma, because we are often looking through the lens of our unresolved trauma rather than the lens of reality.
Your wounds become a filter for how you see yourself, others and life.
When was the last time you recognised something positive about yourself?
Whether that was something you achieved
A attribute or feature you love
Someone you helped
A time where you demonstrated strength
Do you make an effort to monitor & correct your thoughts or do you let your thoughts run wild?
If we don’t consciously feed our brain good thoughts, why would we have them?
One of my favourite things to do when I’ve noticed my thoughts have gone ‘off the rails’, is refer back to a list of accomplishments that I’ve written. The list is a mix of literal achievements like getting a pay rise, obtaining my personal training qualifications, and then more emotional and mental achievements like staying in therapy, leaving a relationship, setting boundaries with friends and family, cutting out toxic people, manifesting my PT studio & dream home etc.
When I read this list, my heart fills with pride!
This then creates a shift in my mind, and like magic, my thoughts start to change
When we are stuck in a cycle of seeing ourselves negatively, all we will see is how negative/bad/not good enough/fat we are, when we make that small shift, we make space for the positive thoughts to come in <3
